More Thinking

[lissalysikan]

Kikue got me thinking (again). This time about a couple of separate subjects, although she had them linked in her post.

The first was about living "now". My thinking here is not what she was saying, just triggered by it. It seems that for many people yesterday and tomorrow touch at now, and now is overlooked, or a small subset of their thinking. I think this goes a long way to explaining how people who have lives that should be full of contentment are stressed and frazzled. They worry that things will not be as good tomorrow, or regret yesterday, or stress over how they are going to get to point xyz in their plans for the future. I grew up without a future – we always "knew" I would die young – so I managed to avoid learning the habit of worrying about it. I don't have a good enough memory of the past to regret it. Not that I just forget it – my memory manufactures a past when I try to think too far back. I know that it isn't real, I don't know what is real, so having regrets makes no sense. I could piece it together from my LJ and what other people tell me, but I usually don't see a need to. The people that matter in my life make sure I remember the things that are important and the rest of it I leave behind. I don't say all people should live that way – thinking that now is all there is – but I think they would be happier if they tried it a little more.

The second was more of a continuation of a thought she'd mentioned a few days ago that I commented on. Who is responsible for our happiness? It seems simple to me – no one can make me "happy". They can do things that please me, or things that displease me, but that is a transitory thing. Within minutes of it the direct memory is fading. So where is the happiness? It's got to come from me – I can react to things others do but ultimately I have responsibility for how I react. When Baby pounces me and it feels like she's collapsing my chest I can react to the discomfort of the pounce and be unhappy, or I can react to knowing it's an expression of love and be happy. I choose to be happy.

Bye for now.

Comments

Happiness

[hellen-w.livejournal.com]

...if I join the moments of pure happiness in my whole life, I'm lucky if the sum is five minutes :) ...and all those moments are related with simple things: a smile, a hand touch, a hug, a word.

Re: Happiness

[lissalysikan.livejournal.com]

Nothing is pure :). The aim is to have the happiness and let go of the unhappiness. Use what you can to learn and grow, then let it go.
And I know you've been happy for more than 5 minutes. We went skating and dancing for longer than that :D.

Re: Happiness

[hellen-w.livejournal.com]

aww.... do you really remember that Lissa? It was years ago :)



You moved me

I love you Lissa, and a HAPPY BIRTHDAY to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

☺☻☼♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥☺☻☼

[foundunicorn.livejournal.com]

I have a week short term memory, but a very strong long term.
Some time's painful memories come on so strong that I shake from it.

[lilybet83.livejournal.com]

I in staying sane as a survivor of life and the many challenges it has presented me, through Counseling and doing a lifeskills for Women course learnt the hard way that one has to look at there life, who we allow in our life. And decide who deserves to be part of our lives, for the best life we can live. Hard choices, because most of us a trained to accept others even those whom forever put us down and treat us with less respect then a dog. But well yeah Lissa hun we love you for who you are, accept you as you are. And most of all try to live a happy life(even with you on the other side of the planet) :P.
A good aim in life is to keep positive, and to try to recognise those things and people in your life whom drag you down and to make your life the best life it can be.